The first step is, of course, to find a good attorney. Then
he or she will file the petition, and your state’s waiting
period will begin. During this time, you should seek out all
the legal information and advice that you can. If there are
unresolved issues pertaining to your case, you should resolve
them immediately. With your attorney’s help, a divorce agreement
that both parties can live with will be drafted. Using a non-confrontational
attorney will help to resolve the case quickly, avoiding the
legal nightmares and high fees that can come with other divorce
cases. If you are already involved in a complex and adversarial
divorce proceeding, it’s not too late to clean the process
up a little. Get back into contact with your soon-to-be-ex,
take responsibility for your part in the mess, and start cooperating
to resolve the issues. If your attorney doesn’t want to cooperate
and make the process go more smoothly, seek counsel elsewhere.
In a divorce, you will definitely need an attorney. In some
cases, the other person is uncooperative, manipulative, or
evasive, and you’ll need a lawyer to protect your interests.
However, they can look after what’s best for you without being
openly adversarial. If your attorney does something shady,
it can reflect badly on you. Make sure that your lawyer knows
that it’s their job to find a solution that both parties can
abide by, not to win at all costs.
Your relationships in life are determined by how you resolve
conflict, and how you treat the other person. You can either
have a win-at-all-costs mentality, or you can work together
to find a workable solution for both of you. It’s more important
to have peace and sanity than it is to be right or to “win”.